How to Stop Mistreating Her (empathy and validation) – 4.16S

How can a guy keep himself from mistreating–or even abusing–his partner? And how do you even start talking about those behaviors? Those are a couple of topics we discuss with author Matthew Fray in this video.

TIMESTAMPS (click on a time below to be taken to that section)

0:00 Intro
0:18 Betrayal trauma & how it is the dividing line
2:08 One Solution: How to not be a mistreater/abuser *
3:20 The hard word: Abuse (…and ADHD)
5:04 One Solution: A way to talk about abuse *
7:36 One Solution: The challenge with validating in this area
9:39 The impact of habitual porn use on empathy
11:23 Toxic, clueless or teachable?
12:40 In the next episode: What if he’s not all in? – Jay and Lori’s website – Matthew Fray’s website – Lori’s site for betrayed partners – Jay’s site for porn addiction recovery


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