She’s Not Meeting My Needs! (is safety actually a need?) – 4.06S

Are her needs more important than his? No, but as you’ll see in this video, his most important needs are usually already met. Our female clients can’t say the same, and this reduces feelings of safety. But is safety actually a need?

0:00 Intro
0:11 Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs within relationships *
1:32 Different levels of needs
4:22 One Solution: Safety is also about reliability (so prioritize it) *
6:15 Jay’s caution: Some emotional abuse happens through sex *
8:17 A story about reliability
8:43 Maslow’s Needs & Self-Actualization
10:11 In the next episode: How the needs addicts focus on tends to harm relationships – Jay and Lori’s website – Matt’s website – Lori’s site for betrayed partners – Jay’s site for porn addiction recovery

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