Healing Addiction through Surrendering All (if you have questions)


Our latest video is down below, but as an FYI…

We will be on a live Q&A tonight as part of a summit sharing tips on managing emotions, disclosure, separation, reconciliation and beyond in an online summit called Renew.

The Q&A is happening at 7pm Eastern tonight (May 12), and we hope you can be there.

Also, our individual interviews air at these times:

Lori’s goes live on Saturday, May 15th at 4pm Eastern.  This talk covers:

  • giving anger 90 seconds and
  • how different levels of ‘getting space’ can give you a better marriage, even if no one ever leaves the home. 

Jay’s goes live on Monday, May 17th at 2pm Eastern.  This talk covers:

  • how authenticity and vulnerability take marriage to a deeper level of commitment, and
  • the father’s role in blended families.

While we still have a 90% success rate with couples, the other experts in the summit also have incredible stories of redemption.  Imagine hearing from mentors, counselors, and other professionals who really get it?

So we hope to see you there (feel free to bring your questions.)  Claim your free ticket.

Women who’ve been traumatized by porn / sex addiction, abuse and lying tell us that applying the 12-Steps to their pain only causes more pain. Yet the 12-Step Program CAN be effective for addiction recovery.

This is because the treatment for addiction and lying is MUCH DIFFERENT than healing the pain and trauma of betrayal. They require different recovery programs.

So in this episode, we cover:
-Step 3 of the 12-Steps, and how to be careful if you’re trying to rebuild trust
-Surrendering all, and how God replaces it
-Special cautions regarding those betrayed by porn, abuse and lying
-Special cautions regarding those who’ve been hurt by the church

0:00 Intro
0:25 Step 3: We make decision to…
1:14 Surrender and coming to the end of ourselves
2:23 “Being beaten into state of…” (The main point here is…)
4:23 My will (where it becomes a problem) / My will vs. My life
6:31 “I don’t think God causes us pain, but…” & a side note for the betrayed
7:21 “The 12-Step books are written with the addict in mind,” not those in betrayal trauma
7:47 To the care of God… as we understand Him
9:34 To those who’ve been hurt by the church (A thought Lori had about God)
11:03 The more I know God, the more I…
11:56 It’s a daily decision to surrender… and anger at God
12:48 Lori’s history… and what can change your life
13:33 “Where I’m lost enough to let myself be led” (R. Mullins)
14:14 How Step 3 reflects how to get closer to God
15:09 Our will… count the cost
16:29 (This) will be painful
16:55 It’s not ‘nothing but crap’—God replaces counterfeits

(Note: if you sign up for the summit using a link above, then you’ll help our ministry at no cost to you.)

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