“Aren’t you over this yet?” “It’s just porn!” “It’s your job to forgive!” Some things told to betrayed who’ve been betrayed don’t help. They only become new sources of pain; new ways we’re betrayed by people we thought we could trust.
Here we cover those things, as well as the origins of the Betrayal Trauma approach.
1:02 The beginning of Betrayal Trauma (Origins)
2:37 Why close relationships hurt so much
4:02 Inherent dynamics in the relationship that can cause Relational Trauma
4:22 Different types of betrayal (and what they look like)
5:39 Societal betrayal – The messages she gets from society
7:07 “Whether or not you have a problem with pornography… this other thing IS betrayal.”
8:16 Betrayed by people we turn to for help
9:17 The messages addicts get… AND the messages the partners get
10:20 “I thought we would be a united front…”
The podcast is below. (It may take a couple hours for it to show up on iTunes, etc.)