Lori shares what she wishes she’d known about betrayal the first time the truth came out.
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0:46 If you don’t know our story or don’t know if you can trust us…
1:02 If you don’t think porn can be addictive…
1:58 If the betrayal happened through a means other than porn…
2:39 What she wishes she had known: “I wish I had known I wasn’t crazy.”
3:46 What Jay sees with guys.
4:22 One of the reasons we end up feeling crazy is…
4:44 Why porn feel more risky than other addictions
5:48 She wishes she had known: ‘To be careful who I had talked to about this… including the professionals…
5:57 … because there are two different main approaches (Codependent Model v. Trauma Model.)’
7:00 There’s something else going on. It’s not her codependency.
7:15 The issue of Treatment Induced Trauma
8:23 She wishes she’d known: “To look for a Betrayal Trauma Trained person” in the helping community.
8:36 She wishes she’d known: “He loved it… and he hated it.”
9:10 Jay explains how it affected him.
9:52 “I can’t control myself around certain members of the opposite sex.”
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