How is Betrayal Trauma Formed? (Symptoms of PTSD) (Video) 2.12S
This episode covers THE thing that can make a situation go from bad to traumatic. We also discuss things that can make the process less damaging for you.
Author: Jay and Lori
Distance from God and The Different Economies of God (Video) 2.11S
This is one we threw together after a movie one night. The room (and Lori) are a mess, but you may find the content helpful. Thanks to the movie Breakthrough and Chrissy Metz for her powerful acting as the inspiration to our video.
Treat Her Betrayal Trauma Pain as Real (& Pray Boldly) – 2.10S
This is one we threw together after a movie one night. The room (and Lori) are a mess, but you may find the content helpful. Thanks to the movie Breakthrough and Chrissy Metz for her powerful acting as the inspiration to our video.
His Self-Deception (& How to Fight It) – 2.09S
Jay and Lori discuss self-deception and lies. Why do betrayers do this? Why did Jay lie to Lori?
They also cover some things you can do to overcome these behaviors and get to a better place.
How Lies Increase Betrayal Trauma Pain, Pt 2 (Video) – 2.08S
Lori holds Jay’s feet to the fire on one of his past beliefs. Then we speak directly to the guys.
How Lies Increase Betrayal Trauma, Pt 1 (Video) – 2.07S
Women tell me the lying is worse than the sexual integrity issue. Jay goes into the first lies he ever told, and Lori shares what she thought when he’d lie about certain things. He even shared some brand new truth the day of this recording.
What She Wishes She’d Known, Pt 2 (Video) – 2.06S
Continued from the previous episode where Lori shares what she wishes she’d known the first time the truth came out.
What She Wishes She’d Known, Pt 1 (Video) – 2.05S
Lori shares what she wishes she’d known about betrayal the first time the truth came out.
What He Wishes He’d Known: A Porn Addict Speaks on the Addiction (Video) – 2.04S
Here Jay gives several things he wishes he’d known about the addiction… and the recovery process.
Other Sources of Betrayal Pain (Video/Podcast) – 2.03S
“Aren’t you over this yet?” “It’s just porn!” “It’s your job to forgive!” Some things told to betrayed who’ve been betrayed don’t help. They only become new sources of pain; new ways…
When Betrayals Continue, She’s Still in the War – 2.02S
Even when addictive behaviors stop, if other unhealthy behaviors continue then she is still ‘living with …
Can Betrayal Be Traumatic? An Addict’s Perspective (Video) – 2.01S
This is the first episode of Season 2 where we cover the basics of betrayal, but also have a few new…
Next Week (…this time: Something New)
Hello everyone,
Just a quick note to let you know that next week (God willing) we will start releasing the next season of our “Coffee with the Couple Cure” Podcast.
But this time, we’re …
Q&A: A Question to “Cheaters”/Losing Faith/Addiction’s Pace/Rivalries/Gambling
Below are the questions we answered in our first Q&A Session(s). We’ll be doing this from time to time–in between podcasting seasons–so subscribe on YouTube if you don’t want to miss any, as we may not post all of them here. If you want us to continue these, be sure to hit the “Thumbs Up” Read more about Q&A: A Question to “Cheaters”/Losing Faith/Addiction’s Pace/Rivalries/Gambling[…]
2.00S Trailer for Podcast Season 2
Hi Everyone. Lori and I wanted to give you a preview of Season 2. You have the option of watching the video or listening to the podcast, which has better audio.
Emotional Intelligence
I thought things were going well, only to find out she was angry with me. I couldn’t effectively tell where she was emotionally, so I missed a lot of opportunities to really connect with her.
1.17S Seasons (Pseudo-Peace)
This episode covers the seasons we go through, and genuine-peace. We also announce something new: we’ll be breaking this podcast into different seasons to tackle different topics. (Subscribe on your favorite podcaster to be automatically notified when the next season starts.)
1.15 Our Anniversary (Celebrating)
This episode covers something couples can do to bond them more closely together.
1.14S Can You Phrase it Differently? (Communication Tool)
This episode covers a technique that can help you avoid arguments… and where we’ve needed it in the past.
1.13 My Apology to Jay (When My Husband Dies, Pt2)
In this episode, Lori apologizes to Jay for something she did during their healing years.
1.12 Special Days (Thoughtfulness and Reading Minds)
This time we discuss handling those “Special” days in the relationship. Maybe you have a birthday or anniversary coming up and you’re feeling some anxiety about it… listen in.
1.11S Can You Trust Us? (Qualifications)
Some may wonder, “Why should I trust you?” Here’s an audio account of our history with helping marriages.
1.10S Our Dark Story (with Some New Info)
This episode covers the part of our story we’ve told before numerous audiences. There’s a few pieces of new information. Even still, if you’ve heard it too many times before, feel free to skip.
1.09 Disappointments (Supporting Each Other)
This episode was recorded late last year after 15 months of one loss after another. (On a lighter note, it also covers how we’re not ‘cooking the books.’)
1.08 Honeymooning Alone (Huh?)
This episode discusses a new trend… one that we just don’t understand.
1.07S How We Got Married (the Miracles)
This episode covers the signs that helped us know we were supposed to get married… and how your own story can help you.
1.06S How to Make Effective Agreements (Demanding-ness)
This episode gives tips on how to make agreements so that
1.05S The Story Ruiner (Leading a Hidden Life)
Here’s a fun take on how details are treated in the relationship… and we also cover how this changes after betrayal.
1.04 When My Spouse Dies (Finding a Balance)
Learn about an indicator of relationship healing, and how to get…
1.03S The Fun Part of Our Story (Broken Printers)
We’ve shared with various audiences how we nearly divorced, but here’s the fun side of our history. (To Betrayed Ladies: This next episode of our podcast covers the fun side of our story. If you’re not in a fun mood, then feel free to disregard. Otherwise, we hope you enjoy.)
1.02 My Funny Valentine (Inside Jokes)
We discuss the importance of inside jokes… and let you in on a few of our own.
1.01S Valentine’s Day (A Podcast for Relationships)
Here’s our new podcast for relationships. Ep.1 shares info about who we are and what you can expect. Many couples have worked with us to heal after betrayal, but this podcast will share the fun side of what we do for relationships in general. Enjoy.
How I know we are really together
How I know we are really together. So here is the challenge that most of us face: when we are physically together with our significant other (SO), we aren’t really together emotionally. We are sitting on the same couch, but we are miles apart when it comes to our needs, thoughts, and feelings. If this Read more about How I know we are really together[…]